Relationship Coaching & Couples Counseling

Secure attachment is the foundation of healthy, satisfying relationships. When individuals feel secure, they trust that their emotional needs will be met and are comfortable giving and receiving love and support. This creates a strong sense of emotional safety, allowing partners to navigate conflict with greater understanding and communicate more openly without fear of rejection or abandonment.

In relationships, secure attachment leads to better problem-solving, stronger emotional intimacy, and the ability to repair after disagreements. Even if you didn’t grow up with secure attachment, it’s something that can be developed through self-awareness and healthy relationship experiences.

Individuals with anxious attachment often worry about their partner’s love and commitment, seeking frequent reassurance and closeness. They may feel overly sensitive to signs of distance or conflict and struggle with fears of abandonment. This can lead to patterns of overthinking, emotional highs and lows, and difficulty trusting that the relationship is secure.

The good news is that with awareness and practice, it’s possible to develop healthier ways of connecting. Therapy or coaching can help reduce anxiety in relationships by building emotional security and improving communication.

Avoidant attachment typically develops when closeness feels uncomfortable or overwhelming. People with this style value independence and may struggle to express emotions or fully open up to their partners. They often withdraw or shut down during conflict and prefer to handle problems on their own rather than rely on others.

While distance may feel safer, it often leaves partners feeling disconnected. Through supportive work, individuals can learn to feel more comfortable with vulnerability, strengthen emotional bonds, and develop more fulfilling, connected relationships.

Disorganized attachment combines traits of both anxious and avoidant styles, often rooted in past relational trauma or inconsistent caregiving. People with this style may feel conflicted about intimacy—longing for closeness but fearing it at the same time. This can lead to chaotic relationship patterns, intense emotional reactions, and difficulty trusting others.

Healing disorganized attachment involves creating a sense of safety within relationships, processing unresolved emotional pain, and learning new ways to experience closeness without fear. With the right support, it’s possible to move toward more stable, secure connections.